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Be Truthful
I cannot express enough, how important it is to be honest when it comes to your whole dating experience. Every
aspect should be handled with the utmost truth and integrity. You are, after all, in search of (in most cases) a
love interest. Be it a casual dating experience you are looking for, an intimate relationship or even, perhaps, the
ultimate...marriage. Whichever it might be, if it is based on truth, you can't go wrong. If, however, you
begin the process shrouded in lies, only misfortune lies ahead of you. As most of you know, when it comes to
untruths, they usually come back to bite you in the butt! It may not be for quite sometime, but eventually it will
catch up to you. And if it isn't until much further along in the process, it can simply be that more detrimental. So,
from the get-go, make it a relationship based on honesty. That way, even if it doesn't work out, at least you know
whatever the reasons may be, they are real.
real
flirting
Most likely, if you are reading this, your dating process will begin with your personal ad. If not, that's okay...the
honesty thing holds true, regardless. Let's say, however, that you are attempting to get into the dating scene
through the online personals. If so, you will begin with your personal ad. This, unfortunately, is where the lies
usually start...bad move. As some of you veterans know, the first thing that most people begin lying about is
their physical characteristics. Some even go so far as to post someone's else's picture (I know of a woman who
posted her daughter's picture as her own). Boy, was that date a disaster! While others use a picture that is as
old as dirt, that doesn't even resemble them anymore. Okay, so you're afraid that the picture you have that
portrays the "now" you, isn't good enough. It doesn't make you look as pretty as you like, as handsome as you
like, as thin as you like, as tall as you like, etc. etc. etc. So what? If you're in this for the long haul and your
expectations are to get a date out of the whole thing, wouldn't it be better to post a picture that actually looks like
you? Otherwise, not only will the other party be hugely disappointed when you finally meet, but if you are going
to lie about something so fundamental, what else might you lie about? So, be truthful. If you don't have a picture that does you justice, than take the time to have another picture taken. It can be a
daunting experience, I know, but one well worth the effort. You don't have to make a big deal about it. Simply
have a friend or family member play photographer. With a digital camera, you can always just keep taking pictures
until you get it right. Take some close-ups and some full figure shots, which show the real you. Make the background a simple one...outside is usually a better option than inside. Stay away from busy backdrops. Don't take
a picture of you standing in front of a wall full of other photos, in the kitchen in front of a sink
full of dirty dishes (you'd be surprised), or in front of a wall that is covered with busy wallpaper. Don't have the
photographer so far away that you can't see your face. Don't wear a hat or sunglasses that hide your face. The
people that you hope will respond to your ad want to see you. Make sure that the lighting is good and that there
is no glare on your face. Dress for the occasion...not to the nines, but in clean clothes that compliment you. After
all, as you know (or may not), you only get one first impression.
honest
flirting
With that done, the next place to begin practicing the art of truthfulness is in the actual text of your ad. It's not a
good idea to try to embellish yourself here either. After all, if you write the ad that you hope someone wants to
read, instead of one that describes you as you are, you probably won't get a second date...again, defeating the
purpose. If you're uncomfortable writing about yourself, get some input from your friends and family again. Ask
them how they would describe you, if they had too. Write down some things that you feel portray the real you. Sometimes when you see it on paper, it's easier to come up with adjectives that describe you best. If you're 30
pounds overweight, don't say you're "pleasantly plump" or "have a few extra pounds". If your natural hair color
is blonde, but you now have gone completely gray, don't go for "strawberry blonde". Use your common sense. The person that is,
eventually, going to meet you face to face, is going to know the truth soon enough. Don't treat your
readers like idiots. Anyway, you get the picture. When it comes to your physical description, be real.
physical
flirting
When addressing who you are and what you like to do, again with the honesty.
If you state that you are the outdoorsy type that likes to do physical things, and you're really a couch potato, how're you going to hike to the top
of that mountain on your first date? Not! If you really like to spend your evenings in front of the tube watching
your favorite TV shows, say so. There's plenty more like you out there, and what could be better than finding
someone else with those same interests. I know that there are days where I would like nothing better than to sit
and watch 3-4 movies in a row. But, I also like climbing to the top of that mountain on a beautiful spring day too. Don't say you like sporting events because you think you'll get more guys/gals beating down your door that way. As
soon as he/she finds out you don't know the difference between a goalie and a handicap, you'll be history. As well, don't come off as being the romantic type that likes candlelit dinners for two, if you can't even find a
candle in your house when the power goes out! Truth rules when it comes to the dating scene, unless, of course,
you're not interested in an encore.
Last, but certainly not least, when it comes to what you want out of a relationship, let the truth ring out loud and
clear. If you are just looking for some new friends and some companionship, say so. There are plenty of others
out there interested in widening their social circle. If you are looking for your last relationship and want a wife or
a husband, say so. There's no point in wasting valuable time dating men and women
(and
flirting
with them)
who aren't of the same mind
set. Some of you may just be looking for a little hanky panky (and
flirting)...nothing wrong with that...say so. Even in this day
and age with STDs being as prevalent as they are, there are a plethora of individuals who would love nothing more
than some uncommitted hot sheet action! Be real in what you're looking for and you'll be more likely to get just
that.
One more note, while we're on the subject...if, at some point, you and your new found date decide that the relationship will become an intimate one, take the time to discuss it. Is it going to be monogamous? If not, what are the
ground rules? Be smart...be responsible...have safe sex. I know of
men and women who go together to get tested for HIV,
so that they can actually see the test results. I have a girlfriend who carries her test results with her. In today's
world, you can never be too safe. Good luck.
Happy Dating!
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About the
author: Addie Scott is the webmistress of this
site and has had extensive experience working, over the last
26 years, with people and their relationships. She has
had multiple articles published online, is
the author and illustrator of a soon to be published
children's' book, and at present, she is working on a how-to
internet business ebook.
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flirting, flirting...
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Be Truthful
I cannot express enough, how important it is to be honest when it comes to your whole dating experience. Every aspect should be handled with the utmost truth and integrity. You are, after all, in search of (in most cases) a love interest. Be it a casual dating experience you are looking for, an intimate relationship or even, perhaps, the ultimate...marriage. Whichever it might be, if it is based on truth, you can't go wrong. If, however, you begin the process shrouded in lies, only misfortune lies ahead of you. As most of you know, when it comes to untruths, they usually come back to bite you in the butt! It may not be for quite sometime, but eventually it will catch up to you. And if it isn't until much further along in the process, it can simply be that more detrimental. So, from the get-go, make it a relationship based on honesty. That way, even if it doesn't work out, at least you know whatever the reasons may be, they are real.
real flirting
Most likely, if you are reading this, your dating process will begin with your personal ad. If not, that's okay...the honesty thing holds true, regardless. Let's say, however, that you are attempting to get into the dating scene through the online personals. If so, you will begin with your personal ad. This, unfortunately, is where the lies usually start...bad move. As some of you veterans know, the first thing that most people begin lying about is their physical characteristics. Some even go so far as to post someone's else's picture (I know of a woman who posted her daughter's picture as her own). Boy, was that date a disaster! While others use a picture that is as old as dirt, that doesn't even resemble them anymore. Okay, so you're afraid that the picture you have that portrays the "now" you, isn't good enough. It doesn't make you look as pretty as you like, as handsome as you like, as thin as you like, as tall as you like, etc. etc. etc. So what? If you're in this for the long haul and your expectations are to get a date out of the whole thing, wouldn't it be better to post a picture that actually looks like you? Otherwise, not only will the other party be hugely disappointed when you finally meet, but if you are going to lie about something so fundamental, what else might you lie about? So, be truthful. If you don't have a picture that does you justice, than take the time to have another picture taken. It can be a daunting experience, I know, but one well worth the effort. You don't have to make a big deal about it. Simply have a friend or family member play photographer. With a digital camera, you can always just keep taking pictures until you get it right. Take some close-ups and some full figure shots, which show the real you. Make the background a simple one...outside is usually a better option than inside. Stay away from busy backdrops. Don't take a picture of you standing in front of a wall full of other photos, in the kitchen in front of a sink full of dirty dishes (you'd be surprised), or in front of a wall that is covered with busy wallpaper. Don't have the photographer so far away that you can't see your face. Don't wear a hat or sunglasses that hide your face. The people that you hope will respond to your ad want to see you. Make sure that the lighting is good and that there is no glare on your face. Dress for the occasion...not to the nines, but in clean clothes that compliment you. After all, as you know (or may not), you only get one first impression.
honest flirting
With that done, the next place to begin practicing the art of truthfulness is in the actual text of your ad. It's not a good idea to try to embellish yourself here either. After all, if you write the ad that you hope someone wants to read, instead of one that describes you as you are, you probably won't get a second date...again, defeating the purpose. If you're uncomfortable writing about yourself, get some input from your friends and family again. Ask them how they would describe you, if they had too. Write down some things that you feel portray the real you. Sometimes when you see it on paper, it's easier to come up with adjectives that describe you best. If you're 30 pounds overweight, don't say you're "pleasantly plump" or "have a few extra pounds". If your natural hair color is blonde, but you now have gone completely gray, don't go for "strawberry blonde". Use your common sense. The person that is, eventually, going to meet you face to face, is going to know the truth soon enough. Don't treat your readers like idiots. Anyway, you get the picture. When it comes to your physical description, be real.
physical flirting
When addressing who you are and what you like to do, again with the honesty. If you state that you are the outdoorsy type that likes to do physical things, and you're really a couch potato, how're you going to hike to the top of that mountain on your first date? Not! If you really like to spend your evenings in front of the tube watching your favorite TV shows, say so. There's plenty more like you out there, and what could be better than finding someone else with those same interests. I know that there are days where I would like nothing better than to sit and watch 3-4 movies in a row. But, I also like climbing to the top of that mountain on a beautiful spring day too. Don't say you like sporting events because you think you'll get more guys/gals beating down your door that way. As soon as he/she finds out you don't know the difference between a goalie and a handicap, you'll be history. As well, don't come off as being the romantic type that likes candlelit dinners for two, if you can't even find a candle in your house when the power goes out! Truth rules when it comes to the dating scene, unless, of course, you're not interested in an encore.
Last, but certainly not least, when it comes to what you want out of a relationship, let the truth ring out loud and clear. If you are just looking for some new friends and some companionship, say so. There are plenty of others out there interested in widening their social circle. If you are looking for your last relationship and want a wife or a husband, say so. There's no point in wasting valuable time dating men and women (and flirting with them) who aren't of the same mind set. Some of you may just be looking for a little hanky panky (and flirting)...nothing wrong with that...say so. Even in this day and age with STDs being as prevalent as they are, there are a plethora of individuals who would love nothing more than some uncommitted hot sheet action! Be real in what you're looking for and you'll be more likely to get just that.
One more note, while we're on the subject...if, at some point, you and your new found date decide that the relationship will become an intimate one, take the time to discuss it. Is it going to be monogamous? If not, what are the ground rules? Be smart...be responsible...have safe sex. I know of men and women who go together to get tested for HIV, so that they can actually see the test results. I have a girlfriend who carries her test results with her. In today's world, you can never be too safe. Good luck.
Happy Dating!
< last tip
About the author: Addie Scott is the webmistress of this site and has had extensive experience working, over the last 26 years, with people and their relationships. She has had multiple articles published online, is the author and illustrator of a soon to be published children's' book, and at present, she is working on a how-to internet business ebook.
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