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of Wisdom to Help Make Your Dating Experience One to Remember
Be Precise
When it comes to writing your personal ad, it is imperative that you be precise; say exactly what you mean, so that there can be no misunderstandings. I will stress, again, the necessity to be honest, above all. Your personal ad is really your very first impression. If you blow it here, your online dating experience will be a disaster. Not to mention the fact that you may never get to flirting. If you fail to tell it like it is, chances are you won't get a second date, let alone a third or a fourth. This is your introduction to yourself. Make yourself shine. Realize that whatever type of person you are, there is someone else out there that will complement you...someone who will like you (maybe even love you) for who you are. So, I will say it again, be real.
If you want a friend, say so. If you want a lover, say so. If you're just into a little bit of flirting, say so. If you're looking for your last relationship and "happily ever after", say that too. If the idea of having kids or dating someone with kids makes you crazy, make it perfectly clear that children aren't an option. If, on the other hand, you have children and it's an absolute necessity that you date someone who enjoys the little buggers (no offense intended), make that clear. Don't search for someone within a 100 mile radius, if you know you aren't up for driving more than 15 miles to pick up or meet your date. If you only date blondes, don't hesitate to include that in your profile. If religion or ethnicity is an issue, say so. If you refuse to go out with someone who doesn't go to church, or who smokes, or drinks or does drugs, be sure to mention that too. By doing so, you will save a lot of wasted time, both for you and your prospective date. There are so many variables, that by narrowing down the playing field, you make it that much easier to find someone who may be the perfect match.
Some of you may not know which type of individual you're looking for, so you might start with a more broad approach. That's okay...this is a learning experience. The important thing is, that you learn the lessons that are there to be taught. As you work through this dating process, you can begin to focus, by the process of elimination. For example, if you aren't sure how you feel about dating someone with children, try it. If, after going out with someone who has kids, you realize that it's not for you, by all means go in and edit your ad. You might decide that you don't like going out with someone who talks about their kids all the time. You might find that you don't like having to end an evening at "a reasonable time" because your date has to get home to the sitter. Maybe you figure out that you don't want to date someone who doesn't have a car, or a job, or who lives at home with Mom. There are so many things that can come into play. Instead of stressing about all the possibilities, start at square one and move on from there.
With an open mind, you could very well find that you enjoy the company of someone, who previously, you thought might be a disaster. Perhaps you are Betty Homemaker who's never stepped out of the box. Given the chance, you might find out that you like rockers, bikers or motor heads. Be open to all possibilities and you might be pleasantly surprised. Be excited about what might be just around the corner. If you walk around with your eyes wide open, making eye contact with the people with whom you intervene each day, your destiny might be right in front of you. Good Luck!
Happy Dating! Happy Flirting!
About the author: Addie Scott is the webmistress of this site and has had extensive experience working, over the last 26 years, with people and their relationships. She has had multiple articles published online, is the author and illustrator of a soon to be published children's' book, and at present, she is working on a how-to internet business ebook.
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